A Birth Plan does not always go as planned…
If you are or were anything like me, then you planned on a natural birth, you know like the ones you see in the movies and all over social media. I planned on an amazing birth I had pictured it in my head, and I had sat down and planned it with my midwives. My waters were going to break and I was going to go drug free and dance my way through labour. I was going to scream and push whilst holding onto the side of the bed, It was going to be me, my partner and my midwives.
Well flash forward to 35 weeks and this was no longer my plan, actually it was still my plan but bubs and my now doctors did not agree.
To get the whole story ill start from the start (don’t worry I wont make this a drag). Around 12 weeks I was accepted into the Birth Centre, which is essentially as natural as you can go but still in a hospital setting, they have aromatherapy, baths, big beds and lounges, everything a go all natural birth could ask for. I was in this model of care until 35 weeks pregnant, when I unfortunately was diagnosed with a heart condition that makes my heart beat super fast, Im talking about 250 bpm, which is much higher than it should ever go. Anyway because of this i was no longer allowed to have bubs in this type of care, instead I had to see a medical team weekly and an obstetrician.
So I was put on heart medication at the age of 23 (this was last year 2017) and I was told that it was too hard to sort out my heart in just a few weeks and that I would have to have an epidural. This didn’t bother me too much as all I wanted was a healthy baby, but boy was a scared and pissed off, I had not read anything about epidurals or any kind of pain medication, the most I had read about was gas and air and how everyone felt like they were floating on a cloud. I had no idea about anything to do with epidurals all I knew was that they stick a needle in your back and then you don’t feel anything.
39 weeks and 5 days at about midnight, I woke up and felt like I needed to poop BIG TIME, So I tried but nothing was happening, so i went back to bed, about 2 hours later this feeling didn’t go away and I knew I must be in labour. So I got in the shower and stayed in there for about an hour, it was the best feeling every time I got these weird period like cramps I would put the water on my belly and all was amazing. Another hour or so went by and I called the midwives and they told me it was time to come in. I was 6cm when I went in and was told it was time for the epidural. When getting an epidural you need to first have a drip in your arm, they could not get a drip in my arm, 3 people tried before my amazing anesthesiologist, came in and got it in.
My waters didn’t break like they do in the movies, instead it was a midwife, after the epidural and the waters being broken and a few hours of discomfort, something happened my babies heart rate was dropping and they weren’t sure why, this happened about 3 times and they told me if it happened again that I would need to go in for an emergency C-section, I had not looked into a C-section at all as i was certain I didn’t need one, once they told me this I had a full on panic attack. Then they told me that bubs had pooped in me and it was time to push, 15 minutes and an episiotomy later my beautiful baby girl was born, there were so many people in the room my partner couldn’t see if she was a boy or a girl, but once the smoked cleared we saw our beautiful princess.
So if your here just for a read my hope for you is that you seriously look in to all the possibilities as its babies plan not yours and if your birth plan doesn’t work out don’t be disheartened as it happens to a lot more of us than you think.
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The Lazy Mummy